Shake up your life: how to change your own perspective
"Mom, I am so very tired with this person. I can't tolerate how he ignores me. I can't tolerate how he doesn't give a damn about what's going on within me even though I explicitly call out. Why is he indifferent to me, why does he not put any effort to change the situation we are into?"...I was angrily venting out in-front of my Mom.
"Why does it bother you?"...Mom asked.
"Mom, he is all I have known all my life. He is my everyday focus. Day starts and ends with him. He is my sole purpose of living this life. Everyone needs a reason, a purpose in life. He is mine. I fight, I shout I argue, but I love him the most. All my life since I have known him, my thoughts, my ambitions, my choices, all circled around him. But now he makes me feel, I did all wrong, as if I was focusing on a wrong thing my entire life. Why he is like this? Do I not matter to him anymore? Or was he like this always?"....I was rattling away my heart- my darkest feelings to Mom.
She said- "Remove Why and say the rest of the sentence loudly."
I shouted on top of my voice - "He is like this"...... My expressions first contorted, then appeared confused and finally eased.
"Yes, he is like that. Now decide how you want to handle him."
I understood and smiled. Removing one word from self talk suddenly transformed me.
A change of perspective is what you need. What screws us most in life is the picture in our head of how things are supposed to be in life. A lot of you might think, this is easier said than done. Erase this from your mind...its a constant endeavor to make small changes in our everyday life. The path is long, but there is always an end to each road. Go for it !!
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